Loca

It's true, she's crazy.  But we like it.

Loca Dance from Richard Williams on Vimeo.

Marvelous Medellín

I mentioned in my last post that we had been in Medellín.  For those of you who do not know, Richard and I are in love with Medellín.  It is just lovely, nestled in a valley with mountains all around.  The temperature there is basically always in the 60s and 70s, and it is lush and green.  There are lots of great parks, a light rail system public transit with gondolas that take you up the mountain sides, a beautiful (and free) botanical garden, and public art everywhere.  Okay so it also has some gangs and violence problems, but hey...who doesn't? 

Anyway, we all traveled to Medellín last week for a gathering between Winnebago Presbytery (Wisconsin) and Urabá Presbytery (Colombia).  I got a little over-zealous and packed a completely unnecessary piece of long underwear, but I did get to wear long sleeves; it was quite a treat.  We pulled out the 4 things we have with long sleeves for Peanut plus the completely snazzy hat that Diane knitted for us, and we took off.  

Peanut was the absolute star of the meeting with everyone passing her around and offering to hold her.  The Winnebagans brought her a Green Bay Packers rattle (see above photo) and promised to come back and visit her.  The folks from Urabá were thrilled to meet her since they had "met" her when I was there and 6 months pregnant.  Photos abounded.  In fact, few of the photos that follow were taken by our camera...

As Peanut was sicky, we got caught in the clash of even more competing parenting advice:

- the fresh air will do her good!

- cover her up, the breeze will make her sick!

- don't wrap her up so tight, she doesn't like it!

- keep her wrapped tight, they like it!

- you should not keep her in that Bjorn all the time - try different positions!

- keep her upright in the Bjorn, she seems most comfortable that way!

- etc...and yes, they all did end in exclamation points!

At any rate, she is doing better now and has had her initial taste of air travel.  Cartagena in month 1, Medellín in month 2, the United States in month 3...gracious whatever will we do next?  :)

Planes...

Trains...

Trams...

and Gondolas?!

Sicky

So we all just shared our first family cold.  I suppose it is nice to have that milestone behind us, but I would have preferred to keep it at bay until Nora was a little older...or until our pediatrician was back from traveling in Buenos Aires...or until we were actually in Barranquilla instead of traveling in Medellín...but whatever.  It is over now, gracias a Dios.  Not everyone is so lucky.

My friend Kelly has a friend whose son had the same due date as Peanut.  He was born earlier but with no problems and life was good for a while.  Somehow he contracted an intestinal virus and became very, very ill.  He was hospitalized and even died and was resuscitated.  He is still alive (last I knew), but has a hard road of recovery to travel as his intestines heal outside his body.

His parents have to be a wreck.  I stayed up for 3 hours watching Peanut sleep after she stopped breathing for a moment because her nose was stopped up.  We knew where the cold came from (thanks Papi...), and we were still anxious because we didn't know how it was going to affect a 2 month old baby.  Every time she coughed she sounded like she was breaking her lungs, and I just wanted to squeeze her tight and make it all better.  I can't imagine having to feel all that through glass in the ICU.  I have been praying for Berend and his parents every day.

As for us, Richard and I are still coughing and a little snot-filled, but Peanut is all better.  They bounce back fast everyone says.  For Berend's sake, I really hope so.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Some laughs, some smiles - all for the folks back home!

Happy Thanksgiving! from Richard Williams on Vimeo.

We love you all, and are thankful for all you have brought to our lives!

All in the Family

It takes a village.

I was always a believer in the idea that it takes more than just parents to raise a child, but actually having a child has lit that idea up in neon, underlined it and put flashing arrows all the way around it.  We are lucky and privileged to have had visits from Abuelita Kit, Tía Laura, and Nanny and Granddad all since Peanut joined us.

Abuelita Kit (Mamie's mom) came just three days after Peanut came unshelled.  She dealt with post-partum Mama, got to watch the first bath ever, went to the first pediatrician appointment and watched full screams in action with the first vaccination.  She changed diapers and sat at the window for sun time.  She brought down a ton of stuff including the entire stock of Costco's protein bars, some Combos, Cheerwine, baby stuff galore, and she continues to scheme on how to get North Carolina barbecue into the country.  She will be the most surprised when chubbalicious Nut of the now knocks on her door in December.

 Tía Laura saw a pretty sweet snoozer, but one who was definitely putting on the pounds.  She did a ton of changing and holding as well as calming a hyperventilating  Mama who was worried she had scratched her daugher's eye thus partially blinding her for life (the Legume is fine).  She had the chance to see a little bit of Peanut's hometown, but most of the time she just hung out and shnuzzled on the sweetest and best Williams-side-of-the-family niece in existence.  She will get to introduce Peanut to her kids, the nutty cousins when we visit in January.

Nanny and Granddad (Richard's parents) just left this week, and man we were sad to see them go!  Granddad is an expert sleep inducer with a back of steel and arms like springs.  Nanny is a Jane of all trades who did a little of everything, including taking care of Mami and Papi!  They went on Peanut's first voyage (to Cartagena), lived through the ups and downs of a 5-6 week old, and caught the first real smiles being given away.  We even got to spend Nanny's birthday with her.  It was a treat!  They are glad to have  a January visit on the books, but are a little nervous about when they get to see her after that!

 Now it seems real life begins and we are really on our own.  So far we are making it, but dang I enjoyed my village!  Thanks to all of you for taking the time, spending the money, and spreading the love to us and to the newest family nut.

(PS. We look forward to seeing GIT, Libby, Rob and Jean in December as well.  You all are in for quite a treat!)

Warning

Bath water can get too hot when you make it on the stove.

Do not worry. No Peanuts were harmed in the making of this blog post.  

The duck was harmed though, that's for real.

The Greatest Pumpkin of All

Peanuts (the comic stip) has a television special every year at this time called "The Great Pumpkin."  Perhaps it has already been on?  At any rate, I thought I would tell you all that we have finally seen it - the Great Pumpkin...actually, The Greatest Pumpkin of All.  :)

From Collages

Helpful Hints

New parents - heck, probably any parents - are subject to loads of advice.  In general I am quite appreciative.  I recognize that I do not know what I am doing, and I am glad for the suggestions and opinions of others.  Clearly my instruction manual for Peanut got lost in the mail (maybe it's just delayed, mail here does take at least 3 weeks to arrive), so while we wait for it, I am glad for folks who are interested in helping us out.

Still, there are some tips that strike me as less necessary.  They are the kind of things that make you wonder who has done this unrecommended thing in order to warrant such specific advice.  It is sort of like the "Do Not Eat" warnings plastered on the white packets you find in your box of new shoes.  I mean, at one point did the manufacturers put Tootsie Rolls or anything that you should eat as some sort of extra prize in your shoe box?  That this warning exists is proof that someone opened that sucker up and tossed it back and consequently had their tongue shrivel up inside their mouth or their tonsils crawl up their throat and jump out or whatever happens when one does upend that little white packet as if it were a foot wear appetizer.   

Seriously though, there are a lot of things that I would like to know and I think someone should probably have let me know before they let me roll on out of the hospital.  Instead, this is just a sample of the helpful hints we have gotten since we started this adventure...

1. It is true that Peanut gets the hiccups all the time.  They look like they absolutely wrack her little body, but they don't seem to bother her at all.  Still, when a Baby Center email popped up with a hotlink to "Is it normal for my baby to hiccup all the time?", I figured what the heck...let's look at that.  In general the small article there confirmed that this was all quite normal and one should not worry, but also offered this sage wisdom...

* Don't try to cure hiccups by startling your baby, pressing on her eyeballs, pushing on her fontanel, or pulling her tongue, which are common folk remedies in some cultures.  There's no proof that any of these methods work, and you could hurt your baby in the process.  

Well, okay.  I had considered delving into her soft spot or sneaking up on her and scaring the hell out of her...but now I won't.  Thanks Baby Center.  Luckily getting her to hold her breath or drink water upside down is still totally on the table.

2.  I was reading about baby reflexes in one of the many books we now have.  (Your Baby's First Year from the American Academy of Pediatrics, p.184)  After talking about the grasping reflex in which you stroke the palm of your baby's hand and she immediately grips your finger, it makes sure to warn you:

* In the first few days after birth, your baby's grasp will be so strong that it may seem she can hold her own weight -- but don't try it.  She has no control over this response and may let go suddenly.

Seriously who is lifting their child by their hands on Day 3?  

3.  And finally, for some in-person advice, at her first check-up our pediatrician, Dr. Farrah, was doing the normal (I suppose) routine examination when he got to two spots on her chest right around her nipples.  

He said, "Do you feel these knots?"  

"Yes...," said Peanut's mother with fear and trembling that she was about to hear how we had to watch that 

               these did not grow into cancerous lumps or begin to sprout vines or turn red and pussy.  
"These are her mammary glands.  Don't pinch them."

Ohhhhhh, okay.  Don't tweak her nipples.  Check.  I guess by the transitive property of stupidity we can't try to have her hang by her nipples either...


Feel free to leave comments with some actually useful advice, or pass along some of your zingers.  I love this stuff.

And the Oscar Goes To...

She is downplaying her fame here, but for all of you who have been hoping for live action shots...here ya go.





Peanut's Video Debut from Richard Williams on Vimeo.

Making Possible the Blue Cocoon

Sometimes God puts people directly in your path.

When I wrote to ask her if she might be willing/interested in coming to Barranquilla to help us with the birth of Peanut, I wasn't sure what she would say.  When we met in February I had confided that I was pregnant (mostly to avoid eating too near any provocative smells), and sparkly eyed she had confided that she was sort of a birth nut.  She was available to talk if I needed to do so, and she wished me well in the coming 7 month journey.  It wasn't much to go on, but, following Ed McMahon's logic, I figured "Heck, if you don't enter, you can't win" and the email shot into cyberspace.

Her response was quick, thoughtful, and lengthy - a preview of all the emails and communications to come.  :)

Susanne is here working with the Mennonite Central Committee for three years, and aside from concerns about whether she would be able to take the time away from her work, she and her family were committed to making this crazy request work...all the way from Bogotá.  So she packed a bag (before we did I think), put it by the front door, and faithfully checked email, text messages and voice mails to see if she needed to hop on a plane.

In her words, "I would love to make it to the birth itself, but if circumstances/timing doesn't work out right...I could bring some recipes and cook a little" and "I'll just be there to clean the toilets and do some laundry for you all."  There may be no one who has undersold themselves quite so impressively.

What we did not know (remember?) is that Susanne is actually a child specialist: birth to age three.  So aside from making it to the hospital by 5pm (plenty of time...) and helping convince Dra. Lucia to let me get on that darn ball to help Peanut turn over, she stayed with us for 4 more days and helped us get our sea legs.  Having eaten together twice and spent a total of 6 hours together previously, Susanne saw more of me than most people ever even wanted to - on the surgical table and afterward as I worked to get the hang of breast feeding and hurt in places I wasn't even aware existed.

Besides cooking some of the best food we have had this whole year, doing the laundry and bringing recipes (we did manage to keep her from attacking the toilet), she stayed up through the night with us to help us figure out the first nights with Peanut.  Susanne helped us remember that Peanut's crying was not a personal attack but rather part of the work she was doing to try and get it together in this new place.  She brought a sense of calm to a household that was feeling more of the storm, and she allowed both of us to hole up in the blue cocoon so that we could sleep, cry, smile, and stare in wonder at this new arrival.

In short, she helped us move from people to parents, and for that Tía Susanne, we can never thank you enough.

And the Winner Is...

So no one got everything right on the nose, but two folks did get awfully close.  It was difficult to make a final decision, but we are going with...

Emily Hendel!  She had the correct day and correct gender, but put Peanut a little heavy...  Don't worry, we don't think she holds it against you.

Your prize will come in the next 6-8 weeks.  We thank you, and all, for playing.  :)

Legends of the Legume

Peanut, 9/12/2010

It has been over two weeks, and I have been meaning to write about Peanut's birth.  Some of the reason I have not gotten this done before is that time seems to slip so quickly away, but some of it has been my reticence to put it all into words.  I think it important, yet somehow an experience that was so deeply embodied seems to defy being summed up on a page.  I am unable to capture the intensity, the good and the difficult.  As my body continues to heal and my heart continues to grow the whole process totters between carnal and mythical.  Imperfect as it may be though, "hay que intentar" (you've gotta try), ¿no?

Querida Peanut,

Though you came to rest in my arms on September 22, I feel as if the story of your birth begins a bit earlier.  One could argue it begins 9 months earlier, but even the final drama began a few days before your official debut.

It was Monday, in the early hours of the morning, and I felt odd.  I did not feel like I needed to go to the bathroom, and yet it felt as if the muscles of my bladder would not stay under my control.  Each hour I would get up to go to the restroom, but little resulted, yet still I could not fall deeply asleep for sensing a drip, drip, drip that reminded me of Poe's tell-tale heart.  By the time light had dawned I knew something was happening, but I was still not sure what.  

I should tell you now that many a time throughout our nine months together I was told that "I would just know" things.  "I would just know" when you began kicking.  "I would just know" when my water broke.  "I would just know" when contractions began.  "I would just know" when it was time to push.  Unfortunately it seems I am a little slower than folks believe me to be.  Ah well, you will undoubtedly agree when you are 14.  

At any rate, I called Dra. Lucia to let her know what was happening, and when I went to her office she first believed my water had broken, just with a small tear or something that had not allowed the movie-like gush to occur.  After moving your head around and thinking longer, she decided it was simply my mucous plug that was very watery and signaled a move toward labor but not yet an immediate one.  That afternoon we returned to check on your heartbeat and movements as well as my contractions (heartbeat and movement -  good; contractions - non-existent), and we were told to walk around more and see if we could encourage effacement and dilation.

Then there was Tuesday.

While Monday was sort of exciting (maybe we are almost there!), Tuesday was a little frightening.  What had been a clear or reddish-tinted liquid began to have a greenish tint, and though I know virtually nothing, I do know that any time something leaving your body is green it is basically bad news.  Another call to Dra. Lucia.  Another trip to her office as soon as possible.

The fear was that somehow the green color was due to the fact that you had passed some meconium already and that you were potentially in distress.  The confusion was that my water still did not seem to have broken, so there was no way for meconium to be showing up this way.  But something was green...  So back to monitoring in the afternoon again.  You still seemed fine, contractions were still merely a dream.  Dra. Lucia was willing to wait, but she was concerned.  I sensed we were running out of time with her, and I was also very worried that you were having some trouble we could not identify.  I was afraid.

Early morning on Wednesday I began to feel some pains.  They were not bad, but I did notice them.  I began to look at the clock to see if they were coming at even intervals because then I felt I might legitimately be able to call them contractions.  They were every twenty minutes or so for a little while, but then they faded into uneven patterns and when I moved around I was not sure if I felt them at all.  Was it simply discomfort?  I wasn't sure.

I texted Dra. Lucia anyway, just to let her know.  She asked me to come into the clinic that morning first thing, 7:30am, so that she could see me.  "No problem," I said, and started to get ready.  But then the roller coaster of worry snuck up on me again, and I began to wonder why she wanted to see me so quickly.  Could it be that she thought something was wrong and she just didn't want to say it over the phone?  My heart pounded as we took a taxi to the Clínica Asunción.  

We met Dra. Lucia in the Emergency Room lobby and she said, "So, it is a good day to have a baby, ¿no?"  An ultrasound said that you were okay, but I was not at all effaced or dilated.  When she said "Well, let's check you in" I was stunned.  Everything I had read about birth said not to go to the hospital too early because it was more likely that the birth scenario would end in a c-section, not to mention that it is just easier to live your life in your own home while you wait for things to build.  We had not even brought our bag (expertly packed by your father, of course) because if you were well then I figured she would just tell us to go home.  But it seemed that was not the path we were on, so we checked in, found our room, and your Papi went back home to get our things.  

While he was gone I was given part of a tablet to help me efface - not to induce labor, though sometimes that is a result of the effacing.  I was comfortable, excited, anxious for your dad to return, and wondering what would come next.  That was 9:00.

I did not have to wait too long.

By 10:00 your dad was back and setting up the array of early labor activities we had planned.  We had the little computer with 2 movies, the iPod with early and active labor music rotations, a book, and I don't even remember what else.  We let folks know we were in the hospital, set up the computer, turned on the first movie and got about 25 seconds into it when the first pains hit.  

All the books will tell you that labor builds gradually.  You have some pains every 20 minutes, working down gradually to 3-5 minutes when you should go to the hospital, birthing center, or be prepared to get down to business at home.  Until then you should distract yourself.  Your body and mind will accommodate the pains slowly and your strategies to manage those pains can shift with them.  None of this was my reality.  I don't know if it had to do with the effacing tablet or if it was just my lot in life, but when my pains hit they hit strong and hard from the get go.  Your dad recorded every time I felt pain, and it seemed way too often to be contractions, but I didn't know what else it could be.

By 12:00 when Fanny and Gloria came to visit I was having pains every minute and a half - one shorter, and therefore more manageable pain, followed by a longer pain that seemed do-able only because it would be over and I would have three minutes until it came again.  After a very brief greeting everyone got into the act with me rubbing my head against a pillow, Fanny letting her hand be twisted out of shape by mine, your daddy pushing down on my back, and Gloria holding my leg to stop it from shaking.  

At 3:30 Dra. Zoila, the on-call doctor, came in to check me, and I had dilated 1 cm.  You've gotta be kiddin' me.

At that point we decided to opt for an epidural.  On the one hand I felt like we were on that slippery slope the books warn you about for going into the hospital early, but on the other hand I knew that I would not make it a lot longer without something since I had been in almost constant pain since 10:30 with only 1 cm to show for it.  So at 4:30 I was wheeled into the surgical room, told I would get a partial pain killer so I could still participate actively in the labor, and instructed to curl up in a ball and not to move.  If I was worried about the pain from the needle, I should not have been.  I'm not sure it was the "tickle" I was informed it would be, but after searing pain for the previous five hours, the epidural was a walk in the park.  

And sure enough it did help for a little while.  Tia Susanne who came all the way from Bogota to be with us arrived at 5:00, and I was able to talk with her and just stop occasionally for pain.  It was as if I was getting a peek at the labor I thought I would have at 10:00 in the morning!  The anesthesiologist came in to see how I was doing and said he was glad to know I had teeth (that I could smile), and hopes in general were higher than they had been in a while.  Unfortunately that only lasted about an hour.  (In fact, your Tia Susanne thinks I shouldn't even mention the epidural since it didn't seem to cut much of the pain at all in her opinion.)

The challenge is that this being my first time to do any of this, I have no idea if what happened from there was more like normal or still particularly intense.  But, for me, the intensity came back quickly and then simply never left.  A part of the reason for that (I came to understand) was that you were facing the wrong way (head down, but face up rather than face down), so your head and back were pressing on my spinal column (ouch).  Thus a lot of the pain I was having was not "productive" pain; it was not the result of contractions...it was just pain.  But you were all good, thanks be to God.  It was a pretty comfortable position for you - why move? - and it was evidently also all but impossible for you to make your way out.  Dra. Zoila pushed for a c-section.  Luckily, Dra. Zoila was not my physician.

Dra. Lucia and I had talked a lot about how much I wanted a vaginal birth and that it meant a lot to me.  Your dad and I were clear that if there were any problems for you then we would certainly concede to a c-section, but we really wanted a genuine shot at a more natural birth.  We had been told that some doctors here would schedule me for a c-section based solely on my age, so our conversations with Dra. Lucia had been very clear from the start.  Keeping an eye on your heart rate and trying to figure out how to help me turn you around, she then had me sit up, legs crossed and start to push just to see if it would do anything.  Given that after a dilating cream and the return of persistent pain I was only dilated 7 cm with no desire to do any pushing, I did my best, but not much changed.  

At that point your Tia Susanne stepped in and suggested we get the birthing ball from our room, turn me over on all fours, and see if we could get you to turn over that way.  Dra. Lucia was skeptical, but willing to try it...as long as I stayed on the table.  So I don't know who, but someone went for that ball, somehow I turned over on all fours, and then I passed to a point in which I just wanted to cry and scream, and I thought there was no way this was going to happen.  Susanne was leaning over me and bearing her full weight on me.  Your dad was getting his hands crushed.  The two doctors were...taking pictures.  Yes, it seems the birthing ball was a new thing for them...

Dra. Lucia, Margarita, Peanut, Susanne

To be honest I thought then that it might all be over.  I did not have the energy or strength to keep going any longer, and the pain was ripping through me as if to tear me in half to try and get you out.  When I asked Dra. Lucia to check my dilation one more time, thinking that would help me decide if I was going to keep this up or not, she insisted I get on my back again.  I wasn't sure I could do it.  I really wanted her to check me while I was on that ball.  I figured I would move when I knew what the next step would be because even the thought of doing it "just to check" anything made me want to fall apart.  

From there things get very shady for me, and maybe your dad or Tia Susanne can fill you in.  I was still not fully dilated, but Dra. Lucia told me to start to push.  My legs were up in stirrups that were higher than Mount Kilamanjaro (I really should have taken a photo of that), and I realized I had no idea how to push.  For all the "prenatal classes" I had taken, I had only learned exercises to keep me flexible (likely helpful given those stirrups), but never anything about breathing or pushing or anything.  

In the end I think I dilated by the sheer force of pushing you out.  Dra. Lucia would tell me to push by saying, "Okay Mamie, fuerte, fuerte, fuerte, fuerte, fuerte."  It is about the only thing I can remember from that time, and it was something that helped me focus.  I laughingly say that you heard her and figured she was talking to you so that each time you push up your head or stretch out your legs you say to yourself, "I am strong, strong, strong, strong, strong!"

Eventually my/your waters did break, and eventually I did get to 10 cm, and Susanne talks about the moment she saw in the doctors' faces that this was really going to happen.  And when I say "doctors" let me be clear that we had a whole panel in the room with us.  The anesthesiologist was back  (I found out later that he got in on the game at one point, taking his arm and pressing down on my stomach to help push you out).  The pediatrician came in.  Dra. Zoila was there.  Dra. Lucia was in charge.  There was at least one nurse (Margarita) who had been helping us the whole time, but maybe others?  My eyes were closed from the time I got on my back again with my feet in the air and my hands on grips that helped me pull up and get air between me and the bed.  I don't know how long it took, but they promised you were coming, so I kept pushing until at some point I actually wanted to do so. 

And then, there you were.  

Once your head was out the rest of your little body just shot right on through.  You made a small cry, not too big, but enough to make us know you were all right.  They put you on my stomach but on some sterile blue paper and we asked to hold you closer, skin to skin.  You were warm and sticky - blue and covered in white and some red.  Evidently you came out with your arm beside your head (as you can often be seen now), and that led to an episiotomy with a fancy right hook to avoid the hemorrhoids that came back with a vengeance with all of that pushing.  But sticky, white, blue, red - you were beautiful.  Your heart shaped face and your small little body were all that I needed.  

I think it is not true that you forget the pain.  You can't really keep it in focus and remember just how much it hurt - that does get blocked out, I think for the sake of your mom's mental health - but you don't forget that it hurt.  What you know more is that somehow all the hurt is still really worth it.  You really are the prize.  You are the miracle.  You are my Peanut, my sweetest one, and it was worth it. 

So welcome to the world baby girl.  We love you, and God loves you.  And you are one great nut.

The Many Faces of Peanut

Peanut Unshelled

Most of you all probably already know that Peanut joined us in the outside world this past Wednesday, September 22 at 10:31pm.  We are thrilled to have joined Isaac of the Chicago Lorenz/Boettner family as well as Tommy Lasorda, Jeremiah Wright, Joan Jett, and Scott Baio for this most auspicious of days.  

We are still going to stick with Peanut for the blog...too much paparazzi otherwise.  But we will offer you more photos of our sweetest little NEWBie here so you can soak her up.  More commentary on the days leading up to her birth and these first days after will come, but for now we know all you people really want are photos.  

Hence we present for your viewing pleasure...

Welcome to the world baby girl.

Today is the day!

Looks like 9/22 will be Peanut's day... We're safe and well, beginning the work of labor. We'd love your thoughts and prayers!

Don't Hold Your Breath Either

It seems that Peanut is taking his/her claim on Colombia (and Colombian time) very seriously because it seems super unlikely that we will have any big events on Tuesday.  I know that due dates are always estimates, and this one perhaps even more than most given that there has always been a little uncertainty on where we should even peg the supposed date in the first place.  All I'm saying is...I wouldn't hold your breath.

When we went to the OB office on Friday there was no contraction in sight on the monitor and zero dilation, hence, Peanut is unlikely to make an appearance on the 21st.  The good news is that the hemorrhoids are way down, no pain, and I am allowed to walk around more now.  Way to go on the shrinking songs/prayers etc. y'all!  Don't stop now though, this ain't over yet.

Don't Just Lay There!

Except in my case...do.

Well, after months of eating better than ever (mostly thanks to Richard), and exercising 3-4 times a week (yes, you read that right), and having perfect blood pressure, good weight gain, and no swelling, I am now on bed rest until the arrival of the Peanut.  Sigh.

 

The following moves to PG-13 and may be unsuitable (TMI) for some readers.  Feel free to stop here and just hope all goes well when the day comes.

So the deal is, I have an impressive case of hemorrhoids.  I have always thought, if you are going to do something, do it right, and this is no different.  I now have a small mountain range on my behind, multi-colored even, and it hurts like the dickens!  Hemorrhoids are really just varicose veins getting overworked and a little pissed off about that.  To combat them we have begun a small pharmacy on my bedside table with antibiotics, anti-inflammatory pills, creams, stool softeners, witch hazel pads, along with the prenatal vitamin that has been a constant companion.  Ah, the joy.  

This is evidently remarkably common in pregnancy, either now or even after birth due to all the required straining and pushing, but it rarely seems to be a conversation piece.  Folks talk about this in hushed tones just like in Brighton Beach Memoirs when everyone whispered "cancer."  And I get it.  It's not an attractive dinner time topic, but hey - it's real and it happens, and it is no good to feel like you can't talk about it.  With double the blood pumping around in your body and the extra pressure of a baby bearing down on you, I am amazed this is not a required rite of passage (be thrilled to pieces if it was/is not).  

I am pretty stoic about all of it now, and it should not impede our desire to continue with a vaginal birth plan, but it ups the ante a bit, and I can't say it calms the nerves.  Still, it is way better than when we thought I was going to have to have surgery 2 weeks before my due date right on my down theres.  Bed rest is not all it is cracked up to be though.  My sides ache (can't lay on my back, can't sit, Lord knows I can't lay on my stomach), and I basically just get up to get a new bag of ice to strap on my behind and lay back down.  Thrilling and...you got it...chilling.  But it isn't for too much longer, and I know that whoever comes closest in the betting contest we have going, Richard and I will be by far the grand prize winners.  

In the meantime, however, I would invite all of you all to hum a shrinking tune whenever you are riding back and forth to work, out walking the dog, feeding your kids, whatever.  In my head it sounds a lot like the baseball organ vamp "shrink, shrink, shrink, shrink, shrink, shrink, shrink, shrink, shrinkety dinky dink!," but you do whatever comes to mind.  Feel free to record your best and send them to me.  I could use a little extra entertainment.

Best of Luck Contestants!

 

Name	Date of Arrival	Gender	Weight
Vanessa Aja-Sigmon	Sept 23	female	6 lbs 2 oz
James Nelson	Sept 28	female	7 lbs 8 oz
Aunt Alice	Sept 29	female	7 lbs 11 oz
Kelly Brouwer & Sandy VanLeeuwen	Sept 17	male	7 lbs 2oz
Marylen Marty-Gentile	Sept 25	male	7 lbs 7 oz
Emily Hendel	Sept 22	female	6 lbs 7 oz
Laura Cheifetz	Sept 15	female	6 lbs 11 oz
Leanne Masters	Sept 23	male	7 lbs 8 oz
Beth Dammers	Sept 23	female	6 lbs 12 oz
Jessica Vasquez Torres	Sept 17	male	7 lbs 2.5 oz
Laura McCavit	Oct 1/Sep 27	female	8 lbs
Todd McCavit	October 2	male	7 lbs 8 oz
Margaret Williams	Sept 26	male	7 lbs 3 oz
Bob Williams	Sept 14	male	7 lbs
Richard Williams (aka Dad)	Sept 13	female	6 lbs 8 oz
Mamie Broadhurst (aka Mom)	Sept 25	no guess	6 lbs 5 oz

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Anniversary!

So Mamie and I snuck away last week for a quick celebration of our eighth wedding anniversary. Yes, eight years ago, many of you were dancing it up in Winston-Salem, NC.  We had a wonderful stay-cation right here in Barranquilla, going to one of the city's historic old hotels, the Hotel El Prado.  The grounds, and the pool in particular are fabulous (see above, or click on the hotel name to take a virtual tour).

During the stay, Mamie proved that pregnant women do not float, but we're pretty sure Peanut enjoyed the pool.  Mamie at least enjoyed the feeling of being 8 kilos lighter again!  It was a great time to get away, because Mamie has been put on bed rest for the duration of this pregnancy.  Sooo, lesson learned is: take the vacation when you can!

Laying Bets

Okay, we are now close enough to B-day, or P-day, or whatever, to really lay down some odds.  When we first told our families about Peanut back in March, the first thing Richard's sister Laura did was to jump up and get some paper to record the family predictions.  I am not sure what the prize is for the winner, but rest assured the cut-throat Williams competition lives on.

Margaret, Richard's mom, sent us those predictions the other day as a reminder, and I thought I would open up the field a little bit...make this more interesting.  

So, if you want in, here is your chance.

Due date according to medical science: Sept 21 

(to be fair, the due date in March at aforementioned prediction time was said to be Sept 25 - do with that information what you will.  All entries will be judged by actual reality.)

Entry requirements:

• You must be of legal age, or at least know how to leave a comment on a blog.  Only blog comments will be registered as official entries.  No separate email messages accepted.

• You may enter only once.  (I mean really, it's not a drawing people.)

• Winner(s) will receive some sort of prize that no one has yet determined.  This will not be anything gross.

•  Final entries must be received by Sept 8.

You must provide the following information:  

(We'll see how savvy I am after I have a newborn as to whether each field will be judged separately or whether some system for figuring out the closest person all the way around suddenly occurs to me.)

1. Name (YOURS, not one you are picking for the Peanut.  That is NOT the prize...)
2. Baby's Gender
3. Birth Weight
4. Birth Date

A later post will provide you with information on your competition, and, of course, an even later one with the winner(s).

All the best.

2 Kg in 2 Weeks...Do Not Try this at Home

I am officially no longer worried about Peanut's weight gain.  

For the first 7 1/2 months I had a pretty low-key belly.  Through at least 6 1/2 months it often depended on what I was wearing as to whether folks even thought I had anything going on around there or not.  This was not good news for bus rides, but otherwise I just took it as par for the course for me.  I was a little worried because all the books say that you should gain around 25 lbs over the course of your pregnancy (more or less, of course), and they spoke of 2 lbs a month (with extra toward the end).  

I recognize now that this was perhaps a mere mathematical trick, trying to make it seem like there was a logical progression to this whole pregnancy gig.  Still, I was nervous because having started out at about 62 kg, I was only at 68 kg even just two weeks ago.  I must say that until I was all preoccupied with my weight gain, kilograms had virtually no meaning to me.  All I knew is that everything sounds heavier in kilos, no matter what.  I now know that a kg is approximately 2.2 lbs, so having gained only 6 of them for a whopping 13 pounds in basically 8 months was a little unnerving.  After all, how was I going to be anywhere near 25 recommended pounds in just another month?

Well, Peanut has the last laugh. 

Yesterday I went to the OB's office basically two weeks after my last appointment.  I stepped on the scale, and BAM!  70 kilograms.  Holy cramoley.  I gained 2 whole kilos in just 2 weeks.  Given that it took me 8 months to gain 6...let's just say Peanut is not to be underestimated.  Onward and outward!

Beach Day

When the group from the Presbytery of Chicago was here last month, we all went to the beach on their final day to relax.  Though Richard and I are the sun god and goddess of Colombia (yeah...), we stayed under the shady huts most of the time.  We did make it out once though when our friend Andrea, a professional photographer, offered to take some family shots. 

Here are a couple of our favorites:

And even though we want to be super-sun careful, Peanut did want to catch a few rays... :)